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Wednesday, 13 January 2016

5 secrete parenting tips that can turn your children around

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5 Parenting tips that can turn your children around. 

Parents should be aware of the great responsibility that is rested on their shoulder; that of training your kids. If you are a parent you will know the weighty responsibility involve in inculcating things on your child’s mind, you need to do more than teaching, warning and disciplining. 

If your child is a teenager you should know that this is a time of emotional intensity, social engagement and creativity and you should not look at them as being crazy or immature. 

Parents can benefit from using these 5 keys to Parenting.  Let us consider each of these keys one after the other.

Let your children know you love them

Do not always hesitate to tell your child that you love them because this goes a long way, it makes them feel special and loved. Loving your child entails proving in words and action that you truely do.

Avoid doing anything that will make them wonder whether you truly love them. Do not just tell your child that you love them; you need to focus on showing them how much they mean to you.

You need to make real effort to express your love for them, developing a strong bond so they can feel secure and contempt.  You can accomplish these through simple things like

  • Saying “I LOVE YOU”,
  • Hugs and goodnight kisses
  • Talking and eating with them
  • Playing their favourite games with them

Discipline your children with love

Do not allow your child to think that you are disciplining them because you are in Power (Boss of the house) instead show love for your children during discipline.

 It is sometimes enough to explain why a certain course is right or wrong. Sometimes your child may fail to apply what you say, when that happens choose the right time and place, discipline your child lovingly and mildly through patience, guidance, training and correction.

 Do not discipline your child in anger or without explaining why you are disciplining them. If you warn them about consequences of misbehaving, they will always follow through. This will help them to feel secure with you and they will know their boundaries and understand what you require of them.

  • Always avoid hitting your child, atimes discipline with heart touching words which may include telling him or her the reasons behind your orders and the benefits of sticking to them. 

Thank your children for their efforts 
Avoid complaining and nagging as these set your children's inner peace ablaze. To encourage your child to do more, appreciate every effort he or she makes before contributing ways in which improvement can be accomplished. Use soft words will correcting and avoid public embarrassments as children deserve the right to be respected too.

Teach your children by actions

If you want your child to be humble, self-sacrificing and respectful, you need to teach them these through the way you relate and talk to fellow mates and friends. A child imitates up to 85 percent of the parent’s behaviour and uses his own initiative to alter it to what you see as his own way of life.

The learning process starts at infant immediately the child begins using the eyes. He watches your actions, listen to your choices of words, as he grows up.

Anything you want your child to do,  always do it so that they can see it and in due time they will inculcate that in their mind. (Children are imitators of the Parent)

Give reasons so as to help your teenager see that your decisions are not arbitrary but reasonable.  If your teenager understands your thinking on a decision he is more likely to obey you willing from the heart. Tell your child you are sorry if you make mistakes as they will now see the reason to be sorry if they make mistakes too.

Invest more time if you want to reap better children. 

Adjust your secular work or other pursuits to spend more time with your children because during this time your child will share their feelings, listen to them carefully as such communication will  help you in your parenting task.

Always appreciate them, do not find fault even when they say things that you should have shouted because they will be focusing on your reaction and any ill reaction will hinder the smooth communication.

Listen and then offer guides with convincing reasons and make sure their questions are always satisfied with answers because if their curiosity is not quenched they will go out to meet peers for suggestions while you lose their trust.

Friends also share common interest, as you cannot be your child’s peer, you can still be his friend by sharing in their common interest, games and Pleasures.

Show insight by looking for Reasons

You can show insight by looking beyond anything your child does. Targeting on the reasons why they behaved or acted that way can help you to descend their thoughts even when you cannot read their mind.

 Having insight will help you to understand your child, when he is disturbed and when he is feeling down, giving you the privilege to render the needed help by sending touching questions to them as to why their new mode or behaviour.

This will show your child that you are interested in helping them to achieve maximum success not just making them feel inferior as children.

The result of understanding your child’s physical appearance, mode and behaviour can help you prove to them that they cannot hide anything from you and this will always move them to approach you for help because they know that you will discover it yourself.


This may differ depending greatly on how strong your relationship with your child is and how your child expresses his feelings.
You may be convinced to believe that you have earned your child’s trust if your child

  • Tells you things about their friends and relationship
  • Tells you when they feel bad or happy and what happened. 
  • Exressess their feelings with words like “I LOVE YOU” , “I MISS YOU” 
  • About his mistakes and ask for suggestions 
  • Why they think you are special